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A blessing in my pregnancy

May 2, 2013

In a previous post about being pregnant as a stepmom, I have written about how it feels to not share this “first time” experience with my husband, as he all ready has two kids. He takes good care of me, but his enthusiasm is so so. Maybe it is because he is a man and can not completely grasp it, or maybe it is because he has previous experiences. I know that when he will hold our child for the first time, it will not be his first experience of holding his child for the first time. I have been wrestling with this. I want my baby to be a miracle to him the way it is to me. 

Today I was thinking about how much I love sharing about the pregnancy with my 5 year old stepson. His eyes sparkles when I start talking about the baby. I did not think he would be that interested, but it turns out he takes it seriously that he is becoming an older brother to the little baby. He wants to make sure we have the right equipment for the baby, and can tell me things such as “we will need a stroller, because we might want to take the baby out for a walk”. He wants to make sure the things we by for the baby has a color the baby likes, and not necessarily something he likes. I realized today that one of the reasons why I love sharing with him and involving him, is because this is a first time experience for both of us. I connect with him, and he responds in a way that confirms my feeling of this being a miracle, something unique and exciting. None of us know exactly how things will turn out, but I think we both sense that it will be a tremendous change, and we both take it seriously the parts we are playing in this change. 

Sometimes it is a surprise who will support us the most in life. My stepson is a great blessing in my journey as pregnant. Image

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6 Comments
  1. thebabydoctorswife permalink

    Are we the same person? I too am due with my first, and my husband has two kids previously. I too have been feeling the same way! I love the way your step-son is so excited. My step-daughter, who is 11, is very excited to have a little sister. I am so thankful for her excitement.
    Check out my blog if you have a chance!
    http://www.thebabydoctorswife.wordpress.com

    • How fun for your 11 year old to be getting a sister! That must be an awesome age to be getting a little baby. I hope everything is well with you and your pregnancy.

  2. I love this!

    • Thank you very much! Sometimes when I write my blog I wonder if anyone bothers to read it. It feels like just one of millions of posts. It means a lot to get a comment 🙂

  3. Maria, this post touched my heart deeply, as many of our ‘connections’ do. What a privilege to read the words of a light, love-filled woman. The differences between how a man and a woman experiences pregnancy is only part related to if either one has had a child before and more, I think, to gender. Even though your husband has held two other babies for the first time before, he hasn’t held the baby he has grown with you before. It will be a miracle for you both. Much love.

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